We are all different in our paths to recovery. Some reasons to start a new women’s phone meeting include:

  • to be of service to the S.L.A.A. fellowship and help it grow
  • to offer a meeting that focuses on a particular aspect of recovery
  • to offer an additional day or time that was previously not offered

Requirements for starting a new meeting

S.L.A.A. Tradition Three

The only requirement for S.L.A.A. membership is the desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. Any two or more persons gathered together for mutual aid in recovering from sex and love addiction may call themselves an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation.

In short, the only requirement to start an new S.L.A.A. meeting is a desire to do so and to have at least one other person willing to participate and that you announce it at the Intergroup meeting.

Remember, this is a “We” program and you are not alone! Be sure to reach out to other members for care and support.

Starting a new meeting can be a greatly rewarding process, and we thank you!

Items Needed & Suggestions

Below are some tips and suggestions about starting a new meeting as provided by the Women’s Phone Meeting Intergroup.

How to start a new meetingKeeping it structured and safeOther Items

The items listed below are needed to start a meeting and keep it going.

1. Ask for Assistance
Talk to other members about your idea and ask them if they might be interested. Listen for experience, strength, and hope, and ask if they’d be willing to help with the meeting. You do need to have at least one other person willing to participate.
2. Choose a Format
Choose one of the formats already available or write your own. Tip: Have a particular focus in mind and become familiar with the core documents of S.L.A.A.

3. Pick a Day/Time
Decide what day of the week and time of the day you would like to hold the meeting, and how long you would like the meeting to be, i.e., 1 hour, 90 minutes, etc. Choose an open day and time in the Meeting Schedule that doesn’t conflict with other meetings on the original line.  After deciding on the day and time, set the date for the first meeting and make sure to announce it at Intergroup so it can be added to the Meeting Schedule.
4. Get the Phone Number/Host Code and meeting guide sheet
Ask someone in already in service for the Host code. This will allow you to open the line for the meeting, turn the entry and exit chimes on and off, and mute the lines if needed.
5. Announce on Meetings
Attend other meetings and let other members know about the new meeting during the announcements section. Give your contact phone number at the end of the meeting for members to call with questions and offer support.
6. List it on the Website
Attend the next Intergroup meeting and announce the new meeting and request it be added to the meeting schedule.  See the Intergroup Information page for the next meeting date and time. Submit the meeting information to the webmaster through the contact form on the website.

The suggestions listed below are provided by our group to help meetings stay structured and safe.

1. Meeting Focus
Keep the format focused, and establish parameters regarding language and behavior. Remember, what might not be triggering to one member may be triggering to another. Speaking and sharing about recovery helps prevent uncomfortable difficulties and potential conflict.
2. Length of Shares
Offer timed sharing for consistency as determined in the format, i.e., 3 minutes with or without a 1 minute warning. Encourage members to do service as the spiritual timekeeper.
3. Business Meetings
Hold a business meeting at a regularly determined date and time, i.e., the last meeting day of the month,  for other members to offer suggestions and support.
Sample Business Meeting Format.
4. Service Terms
Rotate the Co-chair/Chair position on a regular basis, i.e.,  every 90 days so other members may be of service. Announce the service opportunity in the regular weekly announcements or business meeting.
5. Outside Literature
Use only S.L.A.A. Conference-approved or copyrighted draft literature, which is supported by S.L.A.A. as a whole.

F.W.S. statements regarding outside literature:

  • “We do NOT recommend or endorse the use at meetings of literature that is not S.L.A.A. Conference approved. The ‘glue’ in our Fellowship is the unified and consistent message presented in our Conference-approved literature. However, Tradition 4 tells us “Each group is autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or S.L.A.A. as a whole. If the group’s conscience decides to use non-Conference approved literature at any meeting, it is to be clearly labeled as such.”
  • “Although AA books are considered ‘recommended reading,’ they are not Conference-approved literature, nor is any other A.A. literature from any other 12-step program, including other ‘S’ fellowships.”
6. Online Moderation
Online Moderation is an Intergroup Service Position that allows the Moderator to mute disruptive lines (often when the caller forgot to press *6 to mute). If you would like or need Online Moderation, attend the next Intergroup meeting for more information.
Do I need the Women's Phone Meeting Intergroup’s permission before starting a new meeting?
The Intergroup does not approve or deny new meetings,  but we do require that the meetings are announced at the Intergroup meeting and any use of non-conference approved literature must be approved prior to the start of the meeting.
What if no one comes to a new meeting I've started?
In the spirit of Tradition Three, you need at least one other person who can attend before starting a new meeting.   We suggest you make sure the meeting is listed on the website and that you announce it at other phone meetings.
Do I need to let F.W.S. know I've started a new meeting?
Because the Women’s Phone Meeting Group is registered and listed on the F.W.S. meeting list, members will see the listing on the meeting schedule.
What if I want to record a speaker's share in a new meeting I've started or play back an old speaker share?
There are several functions available with the host code. Ask the current co-chair or another member with the host code to assist you.